I don't think I need to have the 'sex' talk with you. I'm confident that you will already know or will find out through other avenues or even through practice how sex works. What I need to share is the emotional side of sex.
Sex can be, and should be, fun and enjoyable. When you are in a relationship with someone that you feel very comfortable with and who you care about, sex comes easily and naturally. When two people are attracted to each other they want to touch each other. This is as simple as holding hands, sitting close together, a hand on a leg/shoulder/arm, an embrace, a kiss. All of these things arouse your senses and make you feel, for want of a better word, 'good'. Continued touching, holding, kissing often leads to more intimate actions and this is great. Except if it's one-sided.
What I really need you to know is that sex is not fun if only one person in the relationship is experiencing these feelings.
Sex is not an entitlement nor an obligation. It's also not a bargaining tool or a reward. You should never be made to feel that you 'owe' someone sex or that it is your duty to consent. Nor should you ever make anyone else feel that way. There is no time frame in which a certain amount of sex needs to happen. You have sex when, and only when, both of you want to!
In my opinion, sex is designed to promote reproduction. That's basically it. Enjoy the fun side of sex, use it to explore and experiment with your partner but if you don't want to see a tiny little version of the two of you in your future then be very careful!
